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So what does it mean to love someone the “right way”?I already covered parts of this idea on a recent blog post titled What I Learned About. In a relationship, respect may even be more crucial than love. And often times, you can't really separate love from respect because as far as I. Respect and love are two emotions we all want to receive, and we hope that . In an ideal relationship, love and respect should be mutual, and.
Did Adam willingly choose to die for Eve as a result? He blamed her in order to save his own skin for his sinfulness and then when that didn't work, he blamed God. Have we forgotten Abraham who tried to save his own neck by portraying Sarah as only his sister and not also his wife to the Pharaoh of Egypt? When the Egyptians see you, they will say, 'this is his wife.
Say you are my sister, so that I will be treated well for your sake and my life will be spared because of you.
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There are other meaningful examples as well such as King David but I need not belabor the point that Eggerichs has no Biblically supported clue regarding man's inherent and ungodly lack of desire to protect anyone but himself. Eggerichs is extraordinarily prideful in the presentation of the material that he so obviously wants to be true regardless of Biblical evidence to the contrary.
He's made a fortune on this false dichotomy, in fact. This book is remarkably redundant, poorly written, and strongly biased in its message.
I remind you that respect is not something exclusive in terms of need to men or have we forgotten 1 Peter 3: If I could give this book half a star, I would. We have times where we just do a quick kiss then go to bed then, there are times we are on each other still acting like a couple of horny teenagers.
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Neither of us has really felt the need to get married not that we haven't talked about it. There is even another aspect to this Timetraveler2 2 years ago What you're discussing with regards to respect and lust is the old "Madonna" complex. Once some men gain respect and admiration for a woman, they begin to view her much in the same way as they view their mothers.
No normal man would ever dream of having sex with his own mother!
It's probably more common than we realize. I've recently made the decision to commit to a woman whom I've been enjoying wonderful sex with, and it's almost like my physical desire for her has disappeared overnight. The stronger the feelings are in my chest, the lesser they are in my loins. Cannot tell you how reassuring it is to have this article validate my experience. Isaac 4 years ago Lust alone ruins; Love respects; and respect may not always love, but it does at times and when that happens, adoration of the respected-lusted after individual takes root To keep things in perfect harmony, love must reign supreme in order to find lust and respect It's a great thought Your explanation of your three relationships makes something very clear that is important.
That is, the order of the development of the three things. From your experience it is absolutely clear that the best relationship, and a lasting one, has a better chance if respect comes first.
Then lust, and finally - love. It is also understandable that lust will always deminish over time as people age. But respect can never be taken away as long as it is based on truth. And as far a love goes, that's always something that takes time to grow and can continue growing with the right ingredients. I'm glad you found your third love. That sure sounds like a keeper. T 4 years ago I've been in three serious relationships, the first we had an amazing connection.
Love, lust and respect were all very strong. We focused our energy on the love and lust side of things and I started losing respect for her, until things became complicated, she cheated and it ended. The second was mostly lustful, a bit of love developed but again, little respect. I saw this going in the same direction as the first relationship so I ended it.
The third one began with the foundation of respect, a little lust crept in, love developed and we got married and had a baby. The lust has dimished, but love and respect prevail. I often wonder if there was more lust, would it weaken my respect for my wife, and after reading this post I think it might do.
Certainly, I see the appeal to having a lustful relationship, it's fun! But I don't know that it is a stable foundation for a healthy relationship as it was detrimental to my first two relationships. Sooner or later, the woman will realise she is not being respected, but lusted after, and I believe most women would rather be respected by their partner than lusted after.
I'm now starting to think that lust can be problematic if that part of the relationship is focused on and developed more than love and respect. I think lust is something that needs to be managed and controlled and not allowed to take over.
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My 2 cents anyway: Jane 5 years ago I would argue that it is not love or respect, but familiarity and the almost inevitable complacency that develop in a relationship that kills lust and sometimes respect and love. Why is the death of lust so much more commonplace than the other two?
Maybe because it is primal. Maybe it is because it is seen as a cardinal sin in the modern Western world.
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Your explanation is a useful method for all couples who feel that something is slipping away. Thanks for stopping by.
Amanda Jones 5 years ago Excellent hub Glenn, you gave an insight on a very controversial subject. When you love someone you feel more tenderness and care for this person, but I'm not saying that there can't be lust in their relationship. I suggest for couples who want to feel lust in their long term relationship to experimentalize, what I mean is to try something different, something unusual, follow your instincts at unusual place or time, maybe then you'll feel lust again.
Joshua Rueff 5 years ago from Kansas City You're welcome! That article is definitely something I'd be interested in - when I get the chance, I'll head over to read it. I know exactly what you mean about language not having the right words. I mentioned in it that Arabic has 40 words for Camel. What it all boils down to is that we can only express ourselves as well as the language we use allows us. So in English our love of a spouse is not decipherable from our love of peanut butter. I like the way you think.
Thanks for the vote up. Joshua Rueff 5 years ago from Kansas City Great hub, I like your analysis of love and lust - I think the English language tends to fail in this category especially; I love my wife, and yet I love peanut butter In Greek, there are 4 words for love I think: Agape, Eros, Phileo, and Koinonia or something like that it's been awhile Voted up, great post!
Glenn Stok 5 years ago from Long Island, NY Laurel - I have to agree with you about that being healthy when you can have both feelings at the same time. It's something that some people need to work on to have a healthy relationship. I am sure that communication on the topic can help. Thanks for stopping by and for your comment. Laurel 5 years ago For me it is the exact opposite of what you describe.
If I am attracted to a man, and if I respect him, then the love and the lust get stronger. I think that is healthy. Teylina 6 years ago Glenn, I wonder if personalities have anything to do with this? An interesting question, on which I vehemently answer Yes! Two marriages and a few relationships at my age I'm entitled to more but These emotions are not even cousins in meaning.
May try a hub on this, as my lover of 12 years just married someone else one week ago, and I know both my and his respect and lust for each other will never go away.
Reasons for his marriage to someone else very understandable, but we know, although only one or two others ever will, and marriage totally changes the relationship! Both have lust under control--he's with someone else for good reason; we both have lots of respect for the other for many, many reasons!
This one will, I think, always be the same for both of us. Angie Jardine 6 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind Hmm, an interesting hub here, Glenn. I have been married 3 times strangely, not particularly because I wanted to be married but because the guy wanted to marry me, I just sort of got carried away.
I have known love and lust, intense and So men, I believe, can sometimes, often? Does that make sense? Women usually and thank God have to have some sort of feelings for the man they sleep with Women are usually the brake, the voice of reason and not all of us experience lust sadly or maybe not.
At my age 64 friendship is much more important. Someone to hold your hand when the diagnosis is not good, someone to worry with when your kids are going through hard times When a couple get married assuming you are speaking religiously I think their thoughts are much about lust and this is normal.
Now if one gets tired of the other and lusts for someone else then there is the problem. Lust naturally will die down as the marriage goes on and turn more to love than lust. I think maybe that is why one or the other sometimes do turn to someone else if this is not mutual in the change. Even certain animals and birds are monogamist.